For a long time now I’ve had my sights set on finding the perfect project to sink my teeth into and the perfect partner to sink my teeth into as well. I’ve helped so many clients over the years achieve and even surpass their own fantasies I figure I should be able to, not only achieve the same but, hey, why not upstage everyone and do it even better for myself.
The result has been like the pursuit of the holy grail. I set an impossibly high level of expectation on myself and on others which has distracted me from truly appreciating what I have in front of me at any given time.
So, Annabelle (I say with my coaching hat on) how are we going to change this view to get more benefit?
Enjoy the journey?
Nope, stretch it further.
OK, how about:
Devour every morsel of life
From the higher perspective, human life is short, so short it is almost the blink of an eye. You can go through many lives living out the same lessons and not getting the answers. Making the same mistakes, being the victim, saying it’s the circumstance or somebody else’s fault or the elite or the weather – whatever you choose to blame – but you’ll keep being handed the lessons until you find your way through them.
Goal Setting in 2017
For me, it seems really strange that I’ve allowed myself to fall for that old fashioned goal oriented mindset. I’ve known for some years now that the way goals are set with coaching clients has changed dramatically. They are no longer reaching for a milestone to hang their hat on. The “goals” are now focussed around a direction to head, a deeper purpose to fulfil – which can be fulfilled in a number of different ways – or a feeling to feel on a regular basis. So I feel like a bit of a wally that it’s taken me this long to bend my own goals to something more up to date.
What does “Devour every morsel of life” mean?
In Mercredan’s session last November he talked about moving up to a higher perspective while we are here on the ground. We get all excited by technology able to produce the “3D effect” via a pair of virtual reality goggles or at the cinema. Then we go outside and fail to recognise how magnificent this Earthly framework really is.
By devouring every moment you are alive with your senses and your appreciation you make a very different experience from what you’ve been living.
It’s just Mindfulness blah blah
You think you’ve heard it all before. “I must be more mindful… yeah whatever.” But, it has more impact than you think.
When you are tuned into the past, the beliefs and your emotions attached to those beliefs to create something similar in the future. The same old story.
When you are tuned into the future, you are missing all the amazing opportunities offered to you right now that would steer you towards what you want.
We talk about being present as if it’s just a fad diet, something trendy to talk about that doesn’t really have a lot of substance. Yet the opposite is true. You’ve asked for a lot of things in your life. The Universe is walking along side you jumping up and down to turn here, talk to this one over here, look at this word on this sign. It is working over time to give you all the clues and, without presence, your chances of picking up those clues becomes slim. Is it any wonder why you question the Law of Attraction works?
How often do you walk down the street absorbed in what’s coming up next in your schedule or stewing over what happened in the past? What if you simply noticed the 3D reality you are in?
How you view it makes a difference as well. If you judge the dreary people, the barriers, the pollution, the broken bottle, the smelly rubbish bin and decide this is getting you down – then you’d be right. It’s all a matter of choice. Law of Attraction “like attracts like” kicks in to draw into your life more of whatever you were focussing on.
On the other hand you could tune into:
See the light and shadow an artist sees as they draw or paint. See the textures, the colours in layers, the contours, the synchronicity, the gravity and lightness. When you look from an artist’s point of view there is beauty in the soft and the gritty. Without one you could not describe nor measure the other so, why judge it?
Lose your judgement because these smells are the smell of life, the smell of the neighbourhood, the smell of the city and the smell of the era we live in which would have been a different smell to 100 years ago.
From a dancer’s point of view I always thought it odd how people hated BO (body odour). I would always retort “That’s the smell of a live person. They would smell a lot worse if they were dead.” In fact, the smell of fresh sweat was very satisfying to me. Getting up close and personal with other sweaty dancers was not only familiar but it was a way of recognising them without sight. You could tell how close they were to you on stage by smell and by heat. Sure, some elements can influence the smell like nicotine, alcohol, garlic, asparagus etc. but generally each person had their own signature which allowed you to get to know the essence of them better. So, smell without judgement.
This has become my favourite way to turn the brain off when I want some meditation time. Just listen, again without judgement. What do you hear? What do you really hear underneath that? There was a great book someone lent me once, I think it was called “The Silence” which taught you to acknowledge a sound, then lift it on a layer of cloud above your head and listen to see what else you could hear underneath. As you lifted the layers away you could listen deeper and deeper. The world got more quiet until all you could hear was your own heartbeat. Awesome exercise. But the sounds around you don’t have to be lifted all the time. Just notice them. They are real, they are life.
This one goes without saying. Mindful eating has been encouraged for a decade or two now. If you eat with your mind on something else – particularly a digital device – you miss the whole experience of eating and can end up hungry or you don’t notice when your brain says you’ve had enough and you keep on eating beyond what the body needs. Eating with gratitude that there is food on the table is a valuable exercise. When was the last time you appreciated your coffee or tea like a connoisseur? When was the last time you followed the cold water down your throat and into your torso? So much is there!
The textures or temperature are something we don’t often identify or describe to each other. With so much reference to what is on the internet these days we reduce our observations to sight and sound. What do you feel? Can you feel your clothes around your body right now (assuming you are not reading my blog naked), the floor beneath your feet. When you walk down the road do you feel the sun, the gentle breeze on your cheek, the change of weight as you shift from one foot to the other, the heat in a restaurant as you pass by a door opening. When was the last time you stopped and felt the rain? Again, so much is there which we ignore.
Yes, there is more than one. Tune in to the mood of the environment, the vibe a person is giving off, the peacefulness a tree offers. Read between the lines of what someone is not saying. This increases your emotional intelligence.
Can you tune in to the emotions of the people who were last sitting in this chair or talking in this room? When it’s strong it is obvious. Were they arguing? Was one of them really sad? Were they hot for each other? It’s quite fun to check into the recent history you can pick up. This is what psychics practice regularly to find their answers. They are just doing what each of us has the potential to do.
Note I did use the word “devour” too, not just to eat, take in or consume your morsels of life. Rather than using your senses to draw in the details like a scientist, how about throwing everything you can into the experience with passion and enthusiasm? Think about what it is to devour something. The passion is barely controllable. Why control it?
Rather than be embarrassed that maybe other people will think you’re a little off your trolley crying over the beauty of a sunset or moaning in ecstasy over an ice cream, be the inspiration for them. Even if they laugh, they will remember it and you know already that the effect will ripple out to others in ways you cannot imagine.
Make a difference
All of these descriptions have been about observing what is already there but another thing to consider is, what are you creating? Are you waiting for the experiences to come to you or are you going to create some of these experiences? If you spend your days running by a tight schedule leaving little or no time for creativity or spontaneity, you’re setting yourself up for a pretty shallow day. If you have no expressive outlet you can find yourself taking it out on your loved ones or simply feeling like a walking zombie without feelings or emotions.
Tune into those emotions. Stir them up! Get them out.
If you’re grumpy or sad or anything negative you don’t want to be taking that out on someone else for the damage can be far beyond what you think. So find another outlet. Write it, paint it, dance it, sing it, run it off at the park, scream into a pillow. Releasing it gives it less opportunity to create illness in your body.
Summing it up
Coming back to my original changing of goals, we know through Law of Attraction that when you ask, it is given. Sometimes it arrives quite quickly, other times, what you ask for fits into the time line a few years later. If you ask again, you are confirming in your mind that perhaps the Universe didn’t hear you the first time and – uh oh – now the Universe gives you exactly what you believe which is that they didn’t hear you and nothing arrives.
So, once you’ve asked, know it’s on its way. Then, avoiding all fierce looks and determination – we’ve decided this time it’s not going to be hard work, right? – get in the flow, follow the queues and devour every second of the journey because you’ll never be in this spot at this time ever again.
1 – devour life with all your senses
2 – find a moment to be playful or to laugh
3 – find a way to express yourself honestly
4 – be the artist and create something beneficial or beautiful that wasn’t there the day before
Pretty simple? Go on, give it a try.
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