social media anger management

social media anger managementAs we move to a new world of transparency and accountability there is going to be a huge amount of past actions “bubbling up” to the surface for everyone to see. Some of it apparently insignificant but, much of it could be unbearable acts of cruelty and injustice. How do we stay sane in this new world?

Social media is already rife with passionate conversations that might only have previously happened the pub and caused a punch up. Yes, we are a world of sinners and, let’s face it, we find it very comforting to be able to point our finger at someone else for what they’ve done and be outraged, shocked, scandalised – as the media have taught us to do. The media love a good punch up so, by stirring it in us, we become the news they can report on tomorrow.

There is so much coming to the surface though, far worse yet to come, we are going to need a new way to handle it rather than simply being shocked and outraged.

We have been taught by the wise ones that in order to create a world of peace we must start with ourselves.

Start with Self

The basis for this is simple yet powerful. Every instant of the day and night we emit a vibration ranging from high to low. High represents pure love, happiness, contentment, bliss. Low represents fear, anger, sadness, powerlessness. It’s like a thermometer and as we go through our day the gauge moves up and down. Our thoughts can alter our vibration pushing it one way or the other. Our emotions show us where we sit on the gauge. We can alter both our thoughts and emotions to alter our vibration.

Where we are sitting on the gauge affects the world around us. When we are in love, very little can go wrong. Technology works, opportunities arise, people around us smile and are drawn to us. We are like a little piece of sunshine and everyone loves sitting in our warm radiance because it raises their vibration too.

When we are having a crappy day the opposite occurs. Things start going wrong, accidents happen, equipment breaks down, happy people shrink away from us and grumpy, rude people are drawn to us.

Simple right?

So when we look at the news, on social media or hear about some injustice that has happened in the world done to people we can relate to, or our food, plants, animals, our environment in general, that can get us really angry. Not just a little anger growing as we read it but, it can stir a roaring volcano within us that is ready to explode releasing anger we have pent up – not just in this lifetime, but many lifetimes of injustice that we don’t even remember.

Going a little weird here but open your mind to the possibilities…

There is no separation and time is not linear.

All human lives in the past are connected to us and co-exist on the same plane when you lift yourself out of a time line.

As we move into this 5D world we are more closely aware and can relate to past injustices. We “feel” them even though we don’t remember them. We are all connected and feel the guilt of the perpetrator as much as the trauma of the victim. We have played both roles and experienced both sides of the story.

I’m sure Jesus taught something along those lines that when you harm another you are harming yourself. It is a Buddhist principal as well. That’s why none of the truly enlightened teachers harmed others. They never picked up a weapon and harmed another person. There is no separation. So the Human Race has been harming itself for millennia.

The time has come to halt the harm and begin the healing.

You and me and everyone currently alive were chosen for this very special moment in the timeline we are currently focussed in to be able to handle the tremendous job of healing the world. We cannot do it if we are angry or fearful.

So we come to a dichotomy. We have all this shit we’ve done to each other we need to bring to the surface to be recognised, acknowledged and mended. At the same time we need to do it without destroying ourselves in guilt, fear and anger.

It’s a hell of a challenge but we can do it. We can.

Compassion is the key

I’m not saying we pat a criminal, rapist, murderer, predator on the back and say they need to behave better tomorrow. There are consequences that need to be paid in this lifetime and even Karma makes sure that if you think you’ve got away with something and avoided jail, you will definitely pay for it in other ways far worse. It will be paid in this lifetime in multiple areas of your life and is due much faster than it ever was before.

So again, we start with Self.

Compassion for Self

You know what you’ve done in this life where you took advantage, stole, harmed with words, thoughts or actions (Yes, even thoughts harm others for there is no separation).

Blame and guilt are a waste of time. Take a look at some of things you’ve done a bit at a time. I know I have. For some things, even from primary (elementary) school I’ve tracked the child down and apologised. Most of the time they don’t remember me doing it at all and we get to have pleasant conversation catching up on the news. It is healing for me though – that’s what’s important. It is me who was carrying it around allowing it to subconsciously affect my thoughts and behaviour, preventing me from allowing myself a lucky break, a gift, an offer of help, because in my mind such a cruel person (ie. me, I) was not deserving.

In cases where you can’t track down the original person, make amends in other ways. After all, there is no separation (I’m repeating that because it can’t be overestimated). If you caused harm in one way, reach out and help someone in the opposite way.

If there is no separation then we reach that original person through our good deeds today anyway. 

Even those we harmed who have passed away will feel the change in you and your willingness to make amends. Random acts of kindness help the person you are giving to and also help you heal yourself. Plus it feels good which raises your vibration.

We can’t do this all in a week. Things may pop up one at a time or you may feel swamped by a bundle of them bubbling up all at once. Be caring of yourself as you let them bubble up. Like a nasty boil on the skin, you’ve got to let it come to the surface where you can see it before it can be cleaned up. It’s painful, yes, but so very valuable. (And yes, I realise a boil is not the perfect analogy for it may not have been there in the first place but, we don’t know that for sure. The body physically expresses what is going on in our thoughts and emotions anyway so perhaps it represents what really was sitting under there all that time.)

Compassion for others

The slow healing process of mending ourselves changes our view of what other dastardly deeds others do in the world. It’s not about “normalising” crime and doing harm to others. It’s about understanding that no one harms another in the first place unless they have some hurt or fear which spurred the action.

I’ll say it again, consequences will be paid either through the courts and jail or paid via Karma in much worse ways in all areas of their life. That is no excuse for you to lower your vibration and lash out in angry words or actions in response. Then you mess up your own world again and the cycle of violence continues.

Becoming more aware of our responses, reactions and the emotional gauge at every instant of the day is what makes us smarter in slowing down the cycle of violence. There are things other people have done in this lifetime that will bubble to the surface in the news and other sources of information that are truly appalling. Finding your own grounded sense of calm is going to be a challenge. If you need to express it, find an healthy way to do it that harms or stirs no one else.

I’ve found little spurts of anger popping up lately. I simply journal it all. Vomit it out on paper, as writers often describe it. Set yourself in an imaginary “room of the socially and politically unacceptable”. Here you can express all your shit, then pack the room up and dissolve it into thin air so you can get on with your day and night free of those emotions.

Sarah Biermann has some wonderful exercises for doing this which you can access on her site imag-creation.com

Louise Hay talked about screaming into and punching a pillow though I’m not sure I’d want to try sleeping on that poor pillow afterwards.

It’s not about suppressing your emotions, it’s about managing them in a way that dissolves them without harming yourself or anyone else.

Look for your own triggers and don’t get caught up in passionate conversations on Social Media where you can plainly see no one is open to alternate perspectives. You are wasting your time literally.

Love conquers all. Start with Self.


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