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Finding Your Authentic Self

In this Channel channel interview I speak with USA channeler Brenda Hoffman about how she got started in channeling guidance from the Universe, how she used it in her career and where she sees Humanity going with channeling in the future. Brenda offered a demonstration of channeling – I loved her method which surprised me in how she was not only quick to move in and out of the channeling space but she was able to listen in with the rest of us.

Her channeled message was a good one for all of us.

My YouTube space The Channel channel is dedicated to interviewing different people who use their intuition and channeling in their life and career. Visit The Channel channel to subscribe and get notice of new interviews as they are uploaded.

Brenda Hoffman website: http://lifetapestrycreations.com
Brenda Hoffman regular podcast radio show: http://blogtalkradio.com/brenda-hoffman


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Clearing Writer’s Block

In this Channel channel interview I speak with Author, Trainer and Coach from the UK Tom Evans. Coming from the unlikely background of a computer IT career, Tom discovered he could channel while on a flight (literally up in the air). Since then he has published many books, audios, training courses, he lectures and coaches one to one as well.

Tom has a very popular podcast where he interviews fascinating people called The Zone Show and his website is http://tomevans.co where you’ll find many very reasonably priced and highly effective products to improve your own intuition, health, career and prosperity. We also talked about raising magical children, clearing writer’s block and where he feels channeling is heading in the future.

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When you never achieve your goals

How many years have you been trying to reach a goal that just never comes to pass? You’ve visualised it clearly, done you homework on what is required, worked so very hard, driven yourself insane pushing for it yet, it remains elusive. Like a bird flying around the cat’s head it’s always just out of reach.

There are a number of reasons you can chase and never achieve your goals. Here, I want to talk about one of those reasons and show one way you can find your answers.

Before we complete this exercise though, there’s a couple of things you’ll need to do.

Firstly, stop beating yourself up. When achieving a goal becomes a high priority in your life, you set your expectations high. If your inner talk includes berating yourself, you are going to slow your progress dramatically. So, sit for a minute and give yourself a break. Always remember Thomas Edison’s famous quote when working on the invention of the light bulb.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

Secondly is to look at you and your goal from an objective point of view, like you’re looking down on a chess board with two pieces on it. When you’re down there on the board your emotions can get high. The thoughts, words and actions get dramatic and while you’re being a drama queen, you won’t be able to see the wood for the trees. So, take a deep breath, add a little smile and lift yourself off the board away from the piece that is you as we work here.

This exercise I am calling…

The Trade Off

One common reason we fail to achieve our goals is when the PURSUIT of it puts us in a position where we become sort of comfortable. If we sit in the same position for a while it becomes a silent agreement we keep with ourselves (eg – a struggling artist, forever single, never got the big break) and the people closest to us, whether they are supportive or critical, become part of that agreement too.

When others expect you to stay in the same position they, in effect, invest themselves in the idea. They are in agreement with where you are and that you will be staying there. They may even mould their own lives around you staying there so it might become inconvenient to them if you actually moved out of that agreement and achieved the goal.

What keeps you in that position?

You may not think it is comfortable and, to prove it, you have plenty to complain about in the status quo. But maybe it’s more comfortable than you think. Let’s look at an example I was working with recently to show you what I mean by a comfortable agreement. A trade off.

Joe (not his real name) is wanting desperately to achieve a big time job. He’s done the hours, has the experience, is well presented, has the education. He seems very comparable to other senior executives yet, he never quite gets the job. We explored The Trade Off to take an honest look at what is going on.

Question 1 – What is comfortable about where I sit?

  • Free time after work
  • Can do my sports in the evening
  • No expectations
  • No comparisons with other senior execs
  • Easy low demand job
  • Can’t let anyone down
  • No stress

Question 2 – What is not comfortable about where I sit?

  • Low income
  • Boredom
  • Isolation
  • No purpose
  • In debt
  • No passion or drive
  • Wasting my time and talents
  • Not creative
  • No connection with others
  • No feedback or appreciation
  • No progress

Question 3 – What do I get to avoid by staying here? (Add these to the first list)

  • Avoid criticism
  • Avoid failure
  • Avoid being judged as strange
  • Avoid being proven incapable

We created these two lists and, although he was hankering to beat himself up, he agreed that yes, this is the Trade Off and yes, it is comfortable.

Rather than immediately try to patch it up we felt it best that he sit with this list for a few days to see what insight arose from it. The reason for delaying action is that there is no one conclusion everyone comes to so we’re not going to assume the answer.

What I’ve seen in the past is that some realise achieving that goal puts them out of their comfort zone and they are only trying to reach it to match an idea of success other people have dictated to them.

We each have our own ideas of success. Big jobs, money, status, travel, big responsibility, a spouse and kids, fame are not what everyone is looking for. So we might fight for a goal very loudly and, when it’s actually offered to us on a plate, we either reject it or sabotage it and then beat ourselves up for years afterwards that we didn’t take it.

Something to think about….

What happened in this case though, was that Joe realised he was putting up with an enormous amount of uncomfortable living in order to avoid the fear of being judged strange or failing at the job. As we talked about this further he realised these fears were unfounded. Just an illusion. He is indeed very capable and would be expected to fail a certain amount as he learnt the extent of the job. Everyone fails. If you’re not failing, you’re not trying anything new.

In fact, he didn’t have to look very far to soon find a great example of a top executive who was very similar in style to him and was not just accepted but was PRIZED by the company for their strange, quirky techniques and personality.

So, what about you? What goal have you been trying to achieve that continues to remain out of reach? What’s the trade off?

 


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Tell me about yourself

creative female business Coach SydneyReading through the “About” page from the website of the article I posted yesterday, Vera pointed out we often identify ourselves with status, career and relationships to describe who we are when we first meet a new person.

I’ve often thought about this too. When we choose these ways to identify ourselves, people judge and compare the details we’ve given to see how we fit into the picture with others or themselves, looking for something in common to talk about. In reality though, it gives them no clue at all about who we are.

For example, someone may have a very fancy pants job title and yet, be a completely different person to someone with a similar job title. The wife or brother of a dignitary might be a very different person to another wife or brother of a dignitary.  One millionaire is not the same as the next millionaire. The same with homeless people, as I have discovered in my street roving. Each are very different people.

And, when you first meet someone, particularly when networking or at a party, you can feel that dull vibration. Their eyes drift off to the side as they tell you their job and their situation. It’s so shallow, so not who they are. It almost always takes a bit more prodding to find what they are passionate about so that a genuine smile will appear and the conversation can be drawn out to more than a few sentences.

How can we change the way we introduce ourselves to others so they truly get to know who we are? Are you brave enough to let them know who you are? Can you see the benefits of getting the crucial details out up front? You might find that someone from a very different background to you actually has more in common with you than your own contemporaries.

This could be a new way to reduce loneliness in the world!

A New Introduction

Wouldn’t it be fun to run a networking event or a party and tell everyone invited they can talk about themselves but not mention their job title or relationships? How would you introduce yourself?

It’s an interesting thought.

Here’s how I might do mine…

I would call myself an explorer as I tend to ask a lot of questions. I love learning about new, leading edge concepts and discoveries, contemplating and making sense of it for myself, then offering it to others if they are interested.

I am very responsive to music and can get completely carried away by my senses, no longer caring if anyone thinks I am a nutter.

I enjoy fully expressing myself – particularly in terms of dance and song – and get a kick out of giving and helping. I also enjoy lateral thinking and opening other minds to possibilities they might not have thought of previously. Break the patterns! That’s fun to me.

Seeing the big picture is also fun. When I talk with someone who is head-down-bum-up struggling to solve the details, by lifting them up so they can see the big picture, it often opens up a whole new set of alternative solutions or even whether it’s important to solve at all. The buzz they get out of that discovery is really satisfying to me.

I’m learning how it is a gift for others to help me and I know I’ve previously been a big stick in the mud about allowing them to do so. I have a highly intelligent mind – both intellectual and emotional intelligence – which has been a major challenge to turn off in order to listen to what my heart really wants, both personally and professionally. I now find it ironic that, despite being intelligent, I am a blonde telling people to think less and feel more.

I’ve been on a magnificent journey of personal development which has made me younger, reduced stress to almost none, altered the way I approach life, helped me to understand human behaviour and the cosmos so much better. I’ve been told that the material I’ve learnt in the last few years has been more than most will learn in a lifetime.

Putting all that incredible material into words that others can follow is what’s on my mind right now and, with some persistence, I know I’m going to do a great job of it.

My self employed work has been extremely fulfilling though I am really interested in adding a project working in a highly skilled team now. I can’t put my finger on what area of work it will be but, I trust it will become apparent shortly and am looking forward to being a part of a greater cause. That’s going to be really fulfilling and perfect for the next step on my journey.

 


So there’s mine. What about you? How would you introduce yourself?

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I look forward to reading yours. 🙂

 

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Service: Life Coaching with Kitegirl Annabelle Drumm as your Personal Development Coach.

 


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The Elevator

I was thinking this morning about how we start the process of creating a better life and career by first using our imagination. We spread out our thoughts laterally playing “What if?” games, running the scenarios in our mind till we find one that entertains us enough to stick.

If we are day dreaming about ourselves and what we could be, these dreams are a necessary part of the process to expand our horizons and give us something to aspire to – so don’t ever let anyone scoff at you day dreaming as being a waste of time.

The picture that came up for me around this process today was the Elevator.

We might be proud of the fact we’ve worked our way up to the third floor in what we are doing. We can look at the floors below and congratulate ourselves on our progress, then day dream about what life would be like on the 11th floor. What are the perks? What are the added responsibilities? What are the extra burdens and worries? What are the gifts? We weigh it up in our heads and some times the burdens feel too much so we’d rather stay on the 3rd floor, other times the perks outweigh the objections so we continue to see ourselves up there.

We might hang out in the elevator a fair bit as it moves above and below our floor on a frequent basis.

Here’s the thing though.

Time and time again the Elevator will stop at the 11th floor, the doors will open and we have a choice. Are we ready to step out and walk onto the 11th floor?

This is often a turning point for us. We might find ourselves frozen to the spot or even shrinking into the corner.
“I’m not good enough to be there.”
“I would lose all my friends on the 3rd floor.”
“Those new people will know I don’t belong there.”
“I don’t deserve it.”
“I am bound to fail.”

And we stand there talking ourselves out of it until, with great relief, the doors close and we are delivered back to the 3rd floor. Many people I’ve worked with – and myself included – go up and down in the elevator, dreaming of a higher floor, going up then coming back down in the Elevator when what we desired was delivered to us. If it’s a rare moment for the Elevator doors to open exactly where we wanted wemight then kick ourselves for years afterwards about the fact we didn’t step out.

How can we ease this process so we are more likely to accept what is offered?

1) Be Do Have

We can use the BE DO HAVE exercise. Rather than just weighing up the perks versus the burdens, do a really good exploration around who you think you would be if you were working on the 11th floor. What qualities of personality and skill set would you take with you? What needs to be added or taken away?

2) Visualise

Visualisations can be useful in picturing that moment of the Elevator doors opening and actually stepping on to the 11th floor. That covers the accepting of the desire. But it’s still easy to be a scaredy cat hovering by the Elevator before you’ve adequately explored your new floor, waiting until the doors open again, leaping back in, heading back from whence you came saying it was all a bit much for you… a bit like me being in a foreign country wandering around the corridors of a private club and finding myself in the male swimming pool dressing room. Yeah, you should have seen the guy laughing at me skidaddling away after he told me where I was. All a bit much.

3) Exploring the new me

In our exploration of being on the 11th floor, not only do we need to see we are worthy of being there and getting used to the idea of boldly stepping out on to the floor; but we also need to see who we are as we make ourselves at home there. Try imagining finding people to spend time with who are even more fascinating than those on the 3rd floor, picturing our skill set growing, our confidence growing and being accepted by the rest of the community on that level. Think about what you can offer your new companions, what you will be contributing.

By adding more exploration in these areas, we can spot where our fears lie so we can address them, early on and then, once the Elevator opens the doors to our desire we can be bold in stepping out and accepting our moving up in the World.


Taking action

These are mindset exercises and they are not the only thing that will move you there, of course. Tuning to your intuition will speed your Elevator towards what you want. If you are truly listening you will tune in to when you need to speak to someone or take action, even if it makes no sense at the time.

You’ve seen other people move up to the 11th floor and they will be quick to sell you an expensive training course on how they did it. Your Elevator may take you there a totally different way though, so keeping your heart open to your intuition will always prompt you towards the Path of Least Resistance.

If you find you are holding yourself back in life and career, get the support you need with Personal Development Coach Kitegirl Annabelle Drumm. Available face to face in Sydney Australia or via Skype/Facetime/Phone internationally. Click here to make an enquiry.

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