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Rebirth of Annabelle Drumm the MC

Sydney Corporate Event MCs Master of CeremoniesAn Eclipse in ancient times was always seen as a moment when each could take time out to be introspective, asking the heart what would bring the most joy when the sun / moon emerges out the other side. A bit like an opportunity to create a new personal world. This time I thought I would join the challenge.

Earlier this month I mentioned a simulcast I would be hosting for Fine Music 102.5 called Live from the Joan. This was performed in a theatre which could seat around 600 but was live broadcast on FM radio and the internet to a much larger audience. I was a co-host last year with two other Presenters and as a co-host you work with the others in a joint effort keeping energy levels on an equal par.

Hosting on my own this year meant I could do things my way. With the theme for the event focussed on young performers I chose to bend my interviews with each of them around building their career as a professional musician – something many young performers are interested in.

We all had a lot of fun and the audience were superb! So very generous and responsive to what was happening on the stage, I was blown away. I enjoyed it so much and was reminded of how much I loved working on the stage all those years before I gave it up to have children. I think the heart was yearning to go in this direction again.

Getting personal

Indulge me here for a moment because my personal story might help you look at your own personal story.

I have to admit for most – no, I would say all – of my pre-children career I fought valiantly to stay out of the spotlight. International dance tours offered I would find excuses to turn away from, starring television roles I would sabotage. I loved doing TV commercials where no one would recognise me. I ran a dance company where I was just one of the line up.

This extended beyond my own performing too. I married a man where I dedicated all my energy to growing his confidence and his career. Being a Mother was about nurturing young souls, giving everything I could to raising them to the best of my ability. Being an Agent for 15 years was about making my Performing artists – other people – stars in their own right boosting their profiles, negotiating hard for better rates and conditions, increasing their income. Being a Coach was about taking each client and moving them up the ranks to a better position too.

All this was about putting other people ahead of me. It took me a long time to question, why do I put others ahead of me? Why am I happy to fight for their right to stand in the spotlight yet shirk it myself?

Where did this crappy mindset come from?

Looking back as far as I could remember, one major turning point for me happened in early school years. In primary (elementary) school everything was good. I had great teachers who encouraged me to be big.

Moving to an intermediate school – the equivalent these days of say grades 6 and 7 – meant I suddenly needed to learn to ride a bike and ride it several kilometres in peak hour traffic on the roads (no kids allowed to ride on the footpath in those days) to and from school. In the same week I also now had to ride in the dark with a puny little lamp on the front of my bike to and from ballet school which was even further away.

The new academic school required a uniform. Uniqueness was not acceptable and there were strict rules to follow. I was no longer outstanding.

The mental stress of such a dramatic change freaked me out and put me in bed for 6 weeks with a mysterious “tummy ache”. Eventually when they managed to get me back to my new school it was half way through the term and all the kids had made their new friends so I was trying to break into these new circles leaving me open to bullying. Not a great start.

Here’s where the fun really begins…

In the school musical the next year, still without many friends, I was one of the dancers in the line-up with everyone else.

During rehearsal close to opening night, one of the teachers took me aside for a very serious talk. She said “Annabelle you are dancing really big and that is standing out. We need to you dance smaller please.”

I found this really puzzling. “But shouldn’t I be dancing the best I can?” I asked.

“No,” she said, “you need to dance smaller or you’ll make the other kids feel bad. That would be awful, wouldn’t it? Then their parents will feel bad because their children don’t look so good so everyone will feel bad.”

Oh, my god! For a little girl who was already bullied and had been struggling to make friends this was the last straw. I went home feeling really disturbed. How could I possibly not dance the best I could? This didn’t make sense.

I asked my dad for his opinion. He was an orchestra Conductor and deep in the professional show business world so I respected his viewpoint much more than a school teacher. To my surprise he agreed with her.

“If that’s what the teacher wants you to do, then you do it.”

I’m not saying that was the only moment in my history I was told to dance small. A teacher said something similar to me in high school as well just to really put another nail in the coffin. Amazing.

I’m not saying it’s all their fault either. Our reactions are what make our lives, not what is thrown at us. Other people might rally against such comments and go on to becoming big stars regardless. My reaction however, was to be a “good girl” and do as I was told.  As a result, in adulthood I always berated myself when it came to standing in the spotlight.

It’s vain

It’s egotistical

It’s selfish

and, the killer of them all…

It makes other people feel bad.

Starting to see the light

Decades have past since then. My coaching clients have taught me so much – the irony of that always makes me laugh. One client in particular, a number of years back, was constantly berating herself for loving beautiful things and admiring beautiful people. She would tell herself it was shallow, superficial, materialistic. Her mother used to hassle her for this and she was embarrassed to tell anyone. As we worked through the coaching sessions, she started to give herself permission to do what brings her the most joy which was to admire the aesthetic.

It seemed to make all the difference in the world. She started to dress better, joined a new design company all about the visual where she was mixing with others who were in love with the visual. It suited her. It brought her joy. All areas of her life started to click into place.

I can see that now and how it relates to my own crappy limiting belief. I’ve had other reminders along the way such as being thrown into a performing job I did not feel prepared for where I was out front singing. Good grief! An ex-dancer singing. Oh well. There were no complaints and even a few thank you’s so it can’t have been that bad.

What it showed me however, like a major epiphany, was that being out front of an audience was not a vain thing for me to do. It brought me joy because I had the opportunity to lift the vibe of a whole group of people all at once. I knew how to do that and could feel their vibe lifting and lowering throughout a performance like flickering flames in a fire so I could almost play them like an instrument. Pretty weird.

Apparently great speakers do that all the time. Lift people up, then let them subside a bit before lifting them again, like a well written symphony. Great sales people do it in a sales pitch as well, just for a smaller audience.

Getting back on the stage

So what if I started to do more MC work? Would you give me a chance?

I’ve started to build a new page to promote my MC and Compere services here. I can host on the stage for Awards nights and concerts but also facilitate more casual styled weekend workshops, staff bootcamps and outdoor events.

http://www.kitegirlcoach.com/sydney-conference-after-dinner-mc-host-presenter-compere/

I will add more info to the page as I go along.

Do you know anyone who needs an MC or Compere for their up and coming event or concert in Sydney?

Even standing in for someone else at the last minute is a possibility.

Click here to contact me if you have an event coming up or can introduce me to someone who has an upcoming event in need of a host.

I look forward to raising the vibe of your audience. 🙂

Annabelle

 


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Finding Your Authentic Self

In this Channel channel interview I speak with USA channeler Brenda Hoffman about how she got started in channeling guidance from the Universe, how she used it in her career and where she sees Humanity going with channeling in the future. Brenda offered a demonstration of channeling – I loved her method which surprised me in how she was not only quick to move in and out of the channeling space but she was able to listen in with the rest of us.

Her channeled message was a good one for all of us.

My YouTube space The Channel channel is dedicated to interviewing different people who use their intuition and channeling in their life and career. Visit The Channel channel to subscribe and get notice of new interviews as they are uploaded.

Brenda Hoffman website: http://lifetapestrycreations.com
Brenda Hoffman regular podcast radio show: http://blogtalkradio.com/brenda-hoffman


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Clearing Writer’s Block

In this Channel channel interview I speak with Author, Trainer and Coach from the UK Tom Evans. Coming from the unlikely background of a computer IT career, Tom discovered he could channel while on a flight (literally up in the air). Since then he has published many books, audios, training courses, he lectures and coaches one to one as well.

Tom has a very popular podcast where he interviews fascinating people called The Zone Show and his website is http://tomevans.co where you’ll find many very reasonably priced and highly effective products to improve your own intuition, health, career and prosperity. We also talked about raising magical children, clearing writer’s block and where he feels channeling is heading in the future.

My new Youtube space The Channel channel where I interview different people who use intuition and channeling in their life and career. Visit the channel to subscribe directly so you get the latest interviews as they are uploaded.


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When you never achieve your goals

How many years have you been trying to reach a goal that just never comes to pass? You’ve visualised it clearly, done you homework on what is required, worked so very hard, driven yourself insane pushing for it yet, it remains elusive. Like a bird flying around the cat’s head it’s always just out of reach.

There are a number of reasons you can chase and never achieve your goals. Here, I want to talk about one of those reasons and show one way you can find your answers.

Before we complete this exercise though, there’s a couple of things you’ll need to do.

Firstly, stop beating yourself up. When achieving a goal becomes a high priority in your life, you set your expectations high. If your inner talk includes berating yourself, you are going to slow your progress dramatically. So, sit for a minute and give yourself a break. Always remember Thomas Edison’s famous quote when working on the invention of the light bulb.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

Secondly is to look at you and your goal from an objective point of view, like you’re looking down on a chess board with two pieces on it. When you’re down there on the board your emotions can get high. The thoughts, words and actions get dramatic and while you’re being a drama queen, you won’t be able to see the wood for the trees. So, take a deep breath, add a little smile and lift yourself off the board away from the piece that is you as we work here.

This exercise I am calling…

The Trade Off

One common reason we fail to achieve our goals is when the PURSUIT of it puts us in a position where we become sort of comfortable. If we sit in the same position for a while it becomes a silent agreement we keep with ourselves (eg – a struggling artist, forever single, never got the big break) and the people closest to us, whether they are supportive or critical, become part of that agreement too.

When others expect you to stay in the same position they, in effect, invest themselves in the idea. They are in agreement with where you are and that you will be staying there. They may even mould their own lives around you staying there so it might become inconvenient to them if you actually moved out of that agreement and achieved the goal.

What keeps you in that position?

You may not think it is comfortable and, to prove it, you have plenty to complain about in the status quo. But maybe it’s more comfortable than you think. Let’s look at an example I was working with recently to show you what I mean by a comfortable agreement. A trade off.

Joe (not his real name) is wanting desperately to achieve a big time job. He’s done the hours, has the experience, is well presented, has the education. He seems very comparable to other senior executives yet, he never quite gets the job. We explored The Trade Off to take an honest look at what is going on.

Question 1 – What is comfortable about where I sit?

  • Free time after work
  • Can do my sports in the evening
  • No expectations
  • No comparisons with other senior execs
  • Easy low demand job
  • Can’t let anyone down
  • No stress

Question 2 – What is not comfortable about where I sit?

  • Low income
  • Boredom
  • Isolation
  • No purpose
  • In debt
  • No passion or drive
  • Wasting my time and talents
  • Not creative
  • No connection with others
  • No feedback or appreciation
  • No progress

Question 3 – What do I get to avoid by staying here? (Add these to the first list)

  • Avoid criticism
  • Avoid failure
  • Avoid being judged as strange
  • Avoid being proven incapable

We created these two lists and, although he was hankering to beat himself up, he agreed that yes, this is the Trade Off and yes, it is comfortable.

Rather than immediately try to patch it up we felt it best that he sit with this list for a few days to see what insight arose from it. The reason for delaying action is that there is no one conclusion everyone comes to so we’re not going to assume the answer.

What I’ve seen in the past is that some realise achieving that goal puts them out of their comfort zone and they are only trying to reach it to match an idea of success other people have dictated to them.

We each have our own ideas of success. Big jobs, money, status, travel, big responsibility, a spouse and kids, fame are not what everyone is looking for. So we might fight for a goal very loudly and, when it’s actually offered to us on a plate, we either reject it or sabotage it and then beat ourselves up for years afterwards that we didn’t take it.

Something to think about….

What happened in this case though, was that Joe realised he was putting up with an enormous amount of uncomfortable living in order to avoid the fear of being judged strange or failing at the job. As we talked about this further he realised these fears were unfounded. Just an illusion. He is indeed very capable and would be expected to fail a certain amount as he learnt the extent of the job. Everyone fails. If you’re not failing, you’re not trying anything new.

In fact, he didn’t have to look very far to soon find a great example of a top executive who was very similar in style to him and was not just accepted but was PRIZED by the company for their strange, quirky techniques and personality.

So, what about you? What goal have you been trying to achieve that continues to remain out of reach? What’s the trade off?

 


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Tell me about yourself

creative female business Coach SydneyReading through the “About” page from the website of the article I posted yesterday, Vera pointed out we often identify ourselves with status, career and relationships to describe who we are when we first meet a new person.

I’ve often thought about this too. When we choose these ways to identify ourselves, people judge and compare the details we’ve given to see how we fit into the picture with others or themselves, looking for something in common to talk about. In reality though, it gives them no clue at all about who we are.

For example, someone may have a very fancy pants job title and yet, be a completely different person to someone with a similar job title. The wife or brother of a dignitary might be a very different person to another wife or brother of a dignitary.  One millionaire is not the same as the next millionaire. The same with homeless people, as I have discovered in my street roving. Each are very different people.

And, when you first meet someone, particularly when networking or at a party, you can feel that dull vibration. Their eyes drift off to the side as they tell you their job and their situation. It’s so shallow, so not who they are. It almost always takes a bit more prodding to find what they are passionate about so that a genuine smile will appear and the conversation can be drawn out to more than a few sentences.

How can we change the way we introduce ourselves to others so they truly get to know who we are? Are you brave enough to let them know who you are? Can you see the benefits of getting the crucial details out up front? You might find that someone from a very different background to you actually has more in common with you than your own contemporaries.

This could be a new way to reduce loneliness in the world!

A New Introduction

Wouldn’t it be fun to run a networking event or a party and tell everyone invited they can talk about themselves but not mention their job title or relationships? How would you introduce yourself?

It’s an interesting thought.

Here’s how I might do mine…

I would call myself an explorer as I tend to ask a lot of questions. I love learning about new, leading edge concepts and discoveries, contemplating and making sense of it for myself, then offering it to others if they are interested.

I am very responsive to music and can get completely carried away by my senses, no longer caring if anyone thinks I am a nutter.

I enjoy fully expressing myself – particularly in terms of dance and song – and get a kick out of giving and helping. I also enjoy lateral thinking and opening other minds to possibilities they might not have thought of previously. Break the patterns! That’s fun to me.

Seeing the big picture is also fun. When I talk with someone who is head-down-bum-up struggling to solve the details, by lifting them up so they can see the big picture, it often opens up a whole new set of alternative solutions or even whether it’s important to solve at all. The buzz they get out of that discovery is really satisfying to me.

I’m learning how it is a gift for others to help me and I know I’ve previously been a big stick in the mud about allowing them to do so. I have a highly intelligent mind – both intellectual and emotional intelligence – which has been a major challenge to turn off in order to listen to what my heart really wants, both personally and professionally. I now find it ironic that, despite being intelligent, I am a blonde telling people to think less and feel more.

I’ve been on a magnificent journey of personal development which has made me younger, reduced stress to almost none, altered the way I approach life, helped me to understand human behaviour and the cosmos so much better. I’ve been told that the material I’ve learnt in the last few years has been more than most will learn in a lifetime.

Putting all that incredible material into words that others can follow is what’s on my mind right now and, with some persistence, I know I’m going to do a great job of it.

My self employed work has been extremely fulfilling though I am really interested in adding a project working in a highly skilled team now. I can’t put my finger on what area of work it will be but, I trust it will become apparent shortly and am looking forward to being a part of a greater cause. That’s going to be really fulfilling and perfect for the next step on my journey.

 


So there’s mine. What about you? How would you introduce yourself?

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I look forward to reading yours. 🙂

 

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Service: Life Coaching with Kitegirl Annabelle Drumm as your Personal Development Coach.

 


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